My twin daughters are twenty years old. As a mother, there are still a few lessons for me to teach. This week’s lesson is stick-to-itiveness. Webster’s dictionary says it means the quality that allows someone to continue trying to do something, even though it is difficult or unpleasant.
Twin A started a new job last week. Twin A is pregnant and this job was a blessing so she can take care of her baby. My advice to my daughters comes from my experience of thirty years of working. Here is my advice: be kind to everyone, do not share your personal business, listen more than you talk, and finally do not get involved with office politics.
Well Twin A had an interesting experience at work. She arrived at work on Monday, only to be informed that she was not on the schedule. She was frustrated because she drove all the way to her office. The office was forty-five minutes from our home.
The previous week, a particular young lady at her job started a conversation about her pregnancy. She shared how she had challenges getting pregnant. Now my suspicious mind would have had all kinds of bells and whistles going off. However, my innocent daughter empathized with her.
The young lady asked her if she had any pregnancy issues; Twin A shared she had a few back pains a few months previously, but was doing much better.
The next day, the manager came asking her why she was complaining about back pains. Twin A was in utter shock. Her response to the manager was “I’m not sure what you’re talking about? I never complained about my back. “The manager reminded her that she had filled out the paperwork stating she had no issues in doing the physical work.
Now this is my child with my mouth… She said, “Listen, I never complained about my back. My co-worker asked me about my pregnancy and I explained my previous issues. If I had a problem now, I would have come directly to you “.
The manager had a real problem because she had accepted the co-worker’s word as truth and now she had no choice but to say, “This must be a communication issue. I was under the impression you were complaining”. My guess is that is what the young lady wanted the manager to believe.
Twin A wanted to quit after driving all the way to work and discovering she did not have to work. But I explained there is no such thing as a perfect job. Crap happens. I reminded her of my rules and suggested that she pray before she quit. After she prayed about it, she said, “I’m going to stay and stick with it”.
I prayed all through this situation for a couple of reasons. First, my daughter would soon become a mother she needed to learn how to encourage her child to stick with things. You cannot quit when things get tough. Secondly, she needed the money and I wanted her to be financially independent. God allows us to go through trials to teach us lessons. This time, the lesson was stick-to-itiveness. Lesson Learned.
For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure. Philippians 2:13 KJV
Are we sticking to our values? Are you asking God for strength to endure daily?